If You See My Farm Kid...

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If you see my farm kid…

Having a meltdown in the middle of the grocery store...

Please don't think she is a brat, or that I can't parent, or that she shouldn't be in public acting this way. She probably just spent a long day in some piece of farm equipment or in the pick-up checking cows and is at the end of her tolerance for organized chaos.

With messy hair and dirty clothes…

Please don't think I don't care or that I should put more emphasis on looking put together for going to town. She most likely entertained herself in the farm pick-up or in a field while her Daddy and I worked on putting up a fence, before making a quick trip to town.

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And you overhear him discussing something that you feel is “inappropriate”...

Please don't get grossed out. My farm kid has seen newborn farm animals arrive in the world. He has been there when mom and dad tag and band a bull calf. He has seen us administer medication to a sick animal.  He knows and has seen more of life and death than most kids his age.

And she smiles and randomly starts a conversation...

Please don't think that's the silliest and most random  thing you've heard from a kid all day! We've worked so hard on appropriate things to say and ways to interact with folks. She doesn't have frequent opportunities to practice! I'm so proud of her!

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Climbing all sorts of ways all over the playground equipment and she looks like a monkey...

Please don't think, I haven't given her enough boundaries. Believe me! She's got boundaries. Things like: stay out of the way of the calf’s hind feet; watch as you run across the yard, because Daddy is moving the semi; entertain yourself and your sister safely in the cab of the semi while daddy runs the auger outside to fill the semi; look out for your little sister as we bounce across pastures in the pick-up checking cows; etc.

What you probably don't see is...

that behind the overtired, dirty, cranky, little kid, is a whole lot of love. Love for the land, love for the livestock, love for the work that we do. A kid learning the true meaning of hard work and responsibility first hand by living it with mom and dad!

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Being a Farm kid is unique, amazing, challenging, tiring, stretching, maturing, and many other crazy, wonderful things!

Being a mom of a farm kid is unique, stressful, amazing, challenging, crazy, unexpected, tiring, stretching, maturing, and many other wonderful things too!

We worry just like any mom...

We worry that we aren't doing enough. We worry that we aren't parenting them the way we should. We worry that we should have made it to church even though we were all exhausted from running all week and a “down day” happened to fall on a Sunday.  We worry that people are judging our parenting and our kid’s behavior. We worry for our kid’s safety.

What you probably don't see behind the tired, stress-filled eyes of a farm mom is that we love our kids, our hubbies, the way we live, our livestock, the land and crops, and we love our friends and neighbors. No matter what, we'd choose no other way to live.

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So when you see a momma and her kiddos, cut them some slack. Consider what you can't see with your eyes. Share a smile, a high five, or kind words like, “You're doing a great job, mom!”! It could totally brighten the rest of their day!

What would you add?

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I want to express many thanks to the wonderful examples of great moms that each of us have in our lives. Also, Much love and thanks to my friend Beth Kruprzak who continues to lend an understanding ear and helped write this post!

Love to you and yours,

Elizabeth